Parent- Child expectations goes awry 😥
These are my thoughts about a heinous crime which has happened recently.
Lucknow man drove 21 km with father’s severed head, disposed limbs across city
In Lucknow, a 21-year-old Akshat Pratap Singh shot his father, Manvendra Singh, and dismembered the body to hide evidence, disposing of body...
This latest news has shocked the whole nation to the core definitely. Not that I am not used to hear such news. Nowadays we get to hear and watch such devastating incidents happening here and there. I do like to keep in tab about whatever is happening around me. But some incidents shake you.
Once again today this Lucknow murder shook me from the depth of my heart. A numbness prevailed hearing this news. The reason being , the accused is a Son who killed his Father. 😱😰.
What is the reason???
Pressure by father for son to succeed in NEET ENTRANCE EXAM. Can’t believe this 😓. Okay , there may be up some real strong reason for the son to be angry towards his father. But to go to the extent of committing a heinous crime is difficult to process in our mind .
I was overwhelmed by this news and hence I started penning my thoughts and views about the same.
All parents welcome their new born baby with immense joy. It is a moment which calls for all the happiness not only for the parents but also for the extended family members too. When a baby is born irrespective of whether it is a boy or a girl it is told as “ PROUD PARENTS OF A BONNY BABY”. This is a universal phase used by all and everyone.
Parents sacrifice, devote physically, mentally and financially to bring up their children into a responsible individual. To also see that their wards do good in their studies, academics to pave a bright future ahead in their life becomes their utmost priority.
In this scenario, parents see the world through their wards eyes. With total dedication they contribute all they can for their wards so that they can make a name for themselves in their both personal and professional life .
No parents anticipate in their wild dreams getting killed by their own wards. Vice versa no wards would imagine that the hands that cradle them will think of killing them. Isn’t it???
The saddest reality is such things are happening and it is unbelievable and unacceptable too. What makes such incidents more disturbing is that they force us to ask uncomfortable questions:
Are we equating success only with exams and ranks?
Are children afraid to disappoint their parents?
Are parents unknowingly tying love to performance?
Is social validation replacing emotional stability?
Parenthood begins with unconditional love. No parent welcomes a newborn thinking about ranks, careers, or entrance exams. They welcome a life a heartbeat a future filled with hope. Somewhere along the journey, expectations slowly start overshadowing emotions. Most parents push because they care. Most children rebel because they feel unheard. Between these two intentions, sometimes silence grows. And silence, when mixed with frustration, can become dangerous.
Is it because of social media and various platforms showing crimes in a laudable manner.
it is macho to show that you are dare devil and nothing can stop you to get a validation for some likes and claps from your so called inner circle??
It is totally devastating and difficult to digest and process such validations which gives a kick and a sense of being a hero to his/ her followers. The tragic part is this very much true and is very sad indeed .
Yes, in some online subcultures, recklessness is mistaken for courage. Defiance is mistaken for strength. Cruelty is mistaken for dominance.
But real strength is emotional regulation.
Real courage is vulnerability.
Real “macho” is self-control.
The tragedy is not just the crime.
The tragedy is when applause replaces conscience.
I want to end this newsletter with these closing lines.
There is this famous song from the famous Hindi movie “ Qayamat se Qayamat Tak”.
The lyrics of this song are not only very meaningful but it is appropriate for all the present as well as future generations. The lyrics in Hindi makes so much sense 👇🏿
“पापा कहते हैं बड़ा नाम करेगा
बेटा हमारा ऐसा काम करेगा
मगर ये तो, कोई ना जाने
के मेरी मंज़िल, है कहाँ
When translated in English the lyrics are 👇🏿
My dad says that I’ll make him proud
That his son will do such good work
But no one knows
Where my destination is…….
The lyrics of this song are like a hammer on the head
it will be remembered for generations ahead……….definitely for sure.
What do you think as reasons for young minds to commit such heinous crimes ??
Comments are welcome as a point of discussion.
If you haven’t subscribed then kindly hit the subscriber button .🙋♀️
I loved reading this article. You did a brilliant job in writing it in such a beautiful manner. Yes, the world is going in the wrong direction. Now and then, we hear sad news, especially about blood relationships. A couple of reasons that I believe about such crimes is the inability to regulate emotions and the need of validation.
You've written about something deeply uncomfortable with real compassion. The space between unconditional love at birth and the slow accumulation of expectations that can turn that love into pressure and pressure into fracture.
The point that hits hardest is this: no parent imagines their child as a threat, and no child imagines their protector as an adversary and yet the distance between those two truths is where real tragedies live.